Is My Child Ready for a Mobile Device? A Parent’s One-Stop Holiday Gift Guide

Determine if your child is ready, plan and communicate usage guidelines, and know how to prep mobile devices with appropriate parental controls and protective apps and filters.

by Kristen A. Jenson

Is my child ready for a mobile deviceIs your child begging for a smartphone, tablet or iPad? Many parents wonder at what age a child is ready to have a constant connection to the Internet via a mobile device. Horror stories abound about kids accessing hard core pornography via iPads, iPod Touches and smartphones, so parents are wise to proceed with caution.

Following are 3 proactive and protective strategies, crammed with great advice and links, to use before (or even after) your kids receive access to a mobile device.

ONE: Determine if your child is ready for a mobile phone.

Lookout (a mobile cyber security company) in conjunction with The Online Mom, published a family smartphone guide. Here are their four questions to help decide if a child is ready to receive a mobile phone or device. When you can answer yes to all of these, your child may be ready:

  1. Does your child need the phone to stay connected with you or for emergency situations?
  2. Does your child understand and respect the time and usage limits you have placed on other things like television and video game playing?
  3. Does your child understand what types of apps are okay to download and how to surf the Internet safely?
  4. Does your child know how to use the phone safely and appropriately? (Do they know who and who not to communicate with? What they should and shouldn’t share online? What sorts of words and pictures NOT to send?)

NOTE: I strongly advise parents to give the gift of access to a mobile device instead of allowing your child to “own” it. It’s your device, but you are allowing them to use it as long as they follow your rules.

Family playing with Tablet computer at homeTWO: Hold a Family Tech Meeting to set up the rules.

Before your kiddo rips open the package, everyone needs to understand the guidelines, boundaries and expectations that a powerful Internet-enabled device requires. The family smartphone guide gives several tips for a family meeting, including:

  • Write a list of rules before the meeting, but consider asking your child to come up with smart guidelines as well—sometimes kids are even more strict than their parents! (Cover guidelines about calling, texting, downloading apps, taking and sharing photos, posting to social media, GPS location settings, and when the phone needs to be OFF. I advise parents to collect all mobile devices from kids at bedtime and recharge them at your bedside.)
  • Post the rules where everyone in the family can see them.
  • Ask your child to sign a contract listing their responsibilities and the consequences for failing to be responsible with their mobile device.

NOTE: Even if your kids already have use of mobile devices, it’s perfectly fine to hold a family meeting and do a “Re-set”!

THREE: Set parental controls and passwords. Install filtering software or apps.

GPBP_20SmallYou may want to complete this step (and charge the device) before you wrap it up.

  • Set the password on your child’s mobile device, and keep it safe. (Check out this handy, free tool called KeePass to conveniently store all of your passwords.)
  • Set search engines to “safe search” modes and use other parental controls. Droid Lessons explains how to do this for Android devices and Apple Support explains how to set restrictions on iPads, iPhones, and the iPod Touch.
  • Install filtering software or apps to protect your child from unwanted content. Here’s a list from PornHarms of filtering products, and this article, Keep It Clean: 8 Tools to Block Porn and Sexting, contains other great options for protecting your kids. Uknowkids provides this list of three must-have security apps for teens.
  • After they’ve been using it, periodically browse your child’s device, checking on the photos they’ve taken and shared and the apps that are installed. (Let them know beforehand that you’ll be checking their devices periodically.) Make sure you understand what each app does. You may want to make a rule that all apps are approved by you. (Realize that some apps are designed to hide content. For example, Hide It Pro brags that “the app is cleverly disguised as ‘Audio Manager’ in the App Drawer… [and] is basically your secret vault of pics/videos/messages/apps etc.”)

Remember, You Are Your Strongest Tool!

iStock mom and daughter readingFinally, almost every article on installing filters and using hi-tech strategies to protect kids, ends by saying this: You are your strongest tool! Talking with kids, regularly, is what will persuade them to protect themselves. This is the low-tech route, but in the end the most effective.

That’s why we encourage parents to start when their kids are young to explain the damage Internet pornography and addiction can have on the brain. The best-selling book Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids is one way parents can begin to educate kids without scaring them, and to get them excited about protecting themselves with their own internal filter.

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Snapchat, Sexting and Photo Hacking: How to Protect Your Child’s Digital Footprint

Pro-active parents must talk to their children about the types of “good pictures” and “bad pictures” that can be taken of them and shared digitally. Here’s some great information to help parents protect their kids’ digital footprint (and two rules to keep them out of trouble). 

by Claudine Gallacher, M.A.

Two Girls Taking Selfie With Mobile PhoneMy Awakening

My first reaction was disbelief. Why would teenage girls think it was a good idea to take pictures of one another wearing only bras? But this was precisely what happened several years ago during an overnight “girls only” activity at a supervised church event. One of the girls confided in me that late at night they were acting silly and decided to take pictures of one another using their cell phones.

None of the girls thought it was a big deal.sleepover

However, I thought it was a big deal! I immediately talked with my daughter, only 7 years old at the time, and pleaded with her to NEVER EVER let anyone take a picture of her (including herself) that she would not want a teacher or grandparent to see.

A year or two after this event, I heard the word “sexting” for the first time. A study published in 2012 in the  Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine found that 28 per cent of high school students had sent sexually explicit messages via their cell phones. More than half of the students surveyed had been asked for a nude photo!

What I’ve Learned about the Modern Teenage and Tweenage Worlds

  1. Kids are much more comfortable having their picture taken than I was as a teenager. For them, taking “selfies” and photos of others is as second nature as getting up to answer a phone (attached to the wall) was for me.
  2. Many teens don’t view sexting as risky because it’s so common. They know teens who sext and haven’t suffered any negative consequences.
  3. Often girls feel like they must compete with porn or they might lose their boyfriend. For many kids, it’s an important form of social currency. Jennifer Lawrence has exacerbated this fear by suggesting to girls, “Your Boyfriend Is Going To Look At Porn Or He’s Going To Look At You.”

What Kids Need to Know About Sharing Nude and Semi-Nude Photos

  1. Any nude photo of a minor (no matter who takes the picture) may be considered child pornography and anyone found possessing it may be subject to prosecution. Parents, who own their child’s phone, can be prosecuted for possession of child pornography, a felony offence.
  2. Sharing nude photos may have serious psychological consequences, with some therapists warning that the psychological scars of sexting are akin to the post-traumatic stress of rape.
  3. Nothing on the internet is private. Everything on the internet is permanent. Once a digital photo is taken and is transmitted via the Internet to any type of digital storage, it can be accessible to hackers. Nothing is actually deleted and “no photo or video is truly temporary, even on Snapchat.” The internet is archived and tools, such as the WayBackMachine, allow people to see web pages as they appeared in the past. Besides this, apps and third party websites whose purpose is to save photos can be hacked.

Family playing with Tablet computer at homeStart Early to Shape Attitudes

Parents often worry about ruining a child’s innocence by bringing up issues like pornography and sexting, but I fervently believe in the adage, “Talk early and talk often.” Age compression is a social trend that has younger and younger kids acting like teens long before they reach their teen years. Whatever unhealthy (or illegal) trend is happening in the teenage or tweenage world, younger kids need to be prepared to reject it well before the moment of decision arrives.

Two Essential Rules to Repeat to Kids

  1. Never take or allow anyone to take a photo of you in your underwear or without clothes on. Only take photos that you would let anyone see.
  2. If someone asks you for or sends you a nude photo, always tell a trusted adult right away.

Have you talked to your kids about the types of pictures they should be sharing? Have they already begun to form a digital footprint? We’d love to hear your ideas, experiences and questions so leave us a comment!

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My kids say they haven’t seen porn…should I believe them?

My kids say they haven't seen porn; should I believe them?Every parent wants to believe their kids are honest. However, sometimes kids hide the truth from their parents. Keep reading for some stats, warning signs and advice for getting the truth from your kids.

Sobering Stats

Here are some sobering statistics every parent should carefully consider:

  • 71% of teens hide online behavior from their parents
  • 90% of boys and 60% of girls were exposed to pornography before the age of 18
  • 32% of boys and 18% of girls have seen bestiality online
  • 39% of boys and 23% of girls have seen sexual bondage online
  • 83% of boys and 57% of girls have seen group sex online
  • 69% of boys and 55% of girls have seen same-sex intercourse online
  • 11 is the average age for viewing Internet pornography

Some Kids Won’t Admit Their Exposure to Porn

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A devoted mother of two boys (ages 12 and 10) and a daughter (age 8), came home from a church meeting with a handout on how to talk to kids about pornography. She was a full-time mom and felt quite certain that her kids had “had no exposure to pornographic materials.”

After explaining some of the basics, she asked her children if they had ever seen pornography. Immediately her 12 year old spoke up about a time “when a picture popped up on the computer screen and how this image kept flashing in his memory and he didn’t know how to stop it.”

Then she asked her 10-year-old son if he’d seen any pornography. He said “No,” but his little sister ratted him out. “What about the time I walked into the living room and you and your friend were on the computer looking for pictures of naked women?”

Obviously, some kids tell the truth more easily than others.

jeff fordJeffrey J. Ford, a licensed therapist who treats pornography addiction, states in his article Creating a Safe Place to Talk About Dangerous Things that, “much of the time initial disclosure begins the process of getting the whole story, and is rarely the whole story!” Ford advises parents that a child “will open up about things in stages and rarely discloses something all at once.”

Warning Signs

Here’s some advice from uknowkids.com’s recent article Is My Child Watching Pornography Online?

  • Is your child very curious about sexuality for a very young age? Do they seem fascinated by the thought of sex and their genitals?
  • Has your child showed any early signs of sexual activity? Do you have reason to believe that they have indulged in sexual contact before?
  • Are there charges popping up on your credit card that you have no clue where they came from? Is your child constantly asking to borrow your credit card, but never gives you a straight answer on why they need it? (Here at PPK, we’re not sure why any parent would hand over a credit card to a child!)
  • Have you noticed that now your computer has been getting a lot of pop-ups and that you are receiving an alarming amount of inappropriate e-mails?
  • Do you feel your child is going through any obvious changes in behavior? Are they acting way more defensive or secretive lately?

If you start seeing any of these warning signs, this should be a red flag to you that something’s going on with your child.

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Our Advice

  • Continue to have brief, regular conversations. Ford advises that it’s “helpful to remember that our children will not learn everything at once, and we don’t need to cover everything at once either…Parents must have many conversations about pornography which provide an opportunity to clarify values and beliefs, express opinions, instill truths about sexuality, and answer questions that their child will have.”
  • Present the evidence. Dr. Gail Poyner, a licensed psychologist who treats children with pornography addictions, recommends that if you suspect your child has been viewing pornography and have some evidence to prove it (a list of search terms or url’s and times/dates), present it and say, “It looks like someone has been searching for porn on this device and I believe it may have been you. We know this is hard for you, but we’re going to get through this together. It’s hard to admit to using porn, but the first thing we’re going to do is to try and make sure you can’t access any more of it.”After that, the parents can begin to share information about how harmful porn can be. It is not necessary for the child to admit right away–or ever– that he or she has been into porn. The child may never admit to it, but parents can still move forward. If during sharing information the child keeps denying, just continue to give information over the course of time. If honesty becomes a big issue, it distracts away from the real issue and can turn into a battle of wills, which will only keep the child lying.
  • Stay calm. Kids will avoid talking or asking questions if they perceive their parents are anxious or upset.
  • Create a safe place to talk about pornography. Instead of lecturing about how bad it is, ask what your child thinks and feels about pornography. Especially with older kids, don’t react with judgment if they are more accepting of pornography than you are. Over time, work to help them see the damaging effects of pornography.
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    Be positive about the benefits of maintaining sexual integrity.

  • Read Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids to your children so they understand exactly how pornography affects their brain and why it’s important to always tell their parents when they are exposed to it.

Next Step Internet Safety: 3 Tips to Help Kids Install an Internal Filter

by Kristen A. Jenson (originally published on Net Nanny’s blog, The Nanny Notes as Internet Safety: The Biggest Mistake (Smart) Parents Make)

Next Step Internet SafetyA little girl goes to a friend’s home to play. Instead of playing with dolls, the two girls hide away in the closet and watch hard-core porn on the family’s iPad.

Is the fact that the iPad was not password-protected the biggest mistake her parents made?

No.

Smart parents understand that the Internet is a dangerous place for kids. To protect their children’s developing minds, they install filters on their computers and password protect mobile devices. They may even reach out to other parents to make sure they are doing the same.

Their biggest mistake? To think they’ve done enough.

So if a parent has already installed Internet filters, what else can they do to protect their kids? The answer: Teach them to install their own internal filter.

What’s an Internal Filter?

It’s the understanding of what pornography is, how it affects their brain, and an action plan to use when they are innocently exposed to it.

Here are three steps to help your kids install their own filter.

  1. Define the word pornography.
  2. Explain that viewing pornography can hurt their brain (just like drugs).
  3. Give them an action plan to use when they see sexually explicit media.

Define Pornography

Dr. Jill C. Manning

Some parents shy away from even saying the word pornography, but that just gives it more power. Jill Manning, PhD, author of What’s the Big Deal About Pornography?  and an expert who has testified before Congress on the dangers of pornography, advises parents to define the term so kids are clear about what we want them to avoid.

“Being clear on what pornography is and how to recognize it is the first step to protecting ourselves.”

Let’s bring this darkness out into the light without apology or shame. For some great tips, check out How to Define Pornography for a 7-Year Old.

Pornography Can Hurt the Brain

More and more brain research is demonstrating what mental health practitioners already know: viewing pornography can lead to a lifelong addiction that can be more difficult to overcome than addictions to drugs, alcohol or tobacco. And because kids have easy access to the Internet, these addictions are beginning younger and younger.

brain-scans1Recently, Valerie Voon from Cambridge University published the results of a study which showed that pornography addiction leads to the same brain activity as alcoholism or drug abuse. Another study done in Germany documented brain shrinkage in people addicted to pornography. These and many others studies are beginning to show that pornography can damage the brain just like drugs do.

What do your young kids need to know? That just like other drugs, viewing pornography can lead to brain damage and addiction. For more kid-friendly information about how pornography affects the brain (and a child’s freedom), read Hey Kids! Freedom Begins in Your Brain.

Give Your Kids an Action Plan!

This is where you get to help your kids with some specific strategies. Answer these questions to help you devise your family’s porn exposure action plan:

  1. When they see it, what should they do immediately? (Shut down the device—it’s good idea to practice this drill.)
  2. Who should they tell if they are ever exposed to pornography? (Kids often keep exposure to pornography a secret for a variety of reasons—encourage them to tell you and assure them that they won’t get in trouble.)
  3. How can they deal with the memories of the porn exposure that keep popping up? (This is a cognitive skill—for some helpful tips, read Teach Kids Two Ways to “Forget” Porn.)
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If you’d like more ideas to help your kids proactively defend themselves against pornography, check out the read-aloud book Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids. It’s a comfortable story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and specifically how to reject it.

I am convinced of this truth:

As we face the dangers of pornography head-on, our kids won’t have to face them alone.

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Is Your Library Safe for Kids? One Mom’s Distressing Story

by Claudine Gallacher

The Shocking Incident

Happy asian girl in the library.Maria Carmen Frandsen cannot forget what happened two weeks ago at her local public library in Auburn, Washington.  Her 9 year-old son had just left her side to use a nearby restroom. As Maria Carmen sat near a table in the children’s section, her other three children (1, 4, and 7) were looking at books. It was at this moment when she happened to glance at a nearby computer directly within her view. On the screen, a man and a women were having sex while a library patron sat watching.

Maria Carmen quickly gathered her smallest children and found her 9 year-old son who immediately told her that on his way to the bathroom he had seen something “bad” on a library computer. Sickened that her son had been exposed to hardcore pornography in a place she had believed was safe, Maria Carmen appealed to the library staff for help. She wanted to ensure that no more kids came across these obscene images.

istock man at computer in library“Nothing We Can Do”

Although the librarian talked to the porn-watching patron, the patron asserted that he had a right to view legal pornography. He refused to change his behavior. The librarian apologized to Maria Carmen, explaining that unless the patron is watching child pornography (which is clearly illegal) there is nothing library staff can do. Maria Carmen talked with other librarians and got the same disturbing answer: “There is nothing we can do.”

What About Children’s Rights?

Do you think this response is good enough for a conscientious mother? We don’t either! And we’re so proud of Maria Carmen for doing something! In a letter to the Auburn Reporter, she asks, “What about our children’s rights not to be exposed to harmful material?” She wants to know why her library has rules that forbid food and bare feet, but no regulations against watching XXX movies at computers that children can easily see.

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Should patrons have the right to watch porn on computer screens in full view of children?

Something We CAN DO

Wherever you live, take these two steps:

  • Email your library or talk to your local librarian and find out how they respond if a patron is viewing pornography on library computers. What happens if other patrons complain?
  • Check out the Safe Schools Safe Libraries Project website and download their free “Getting Started” packet. You can also read about others who are working to make our libraries safe for kids. Knowledge is power!

 If you live in King County Washington, do this:

  • Write to the KCLS Board of Trustees (the people that create/regulate library policy) to let them know how you feel about a patron’s “right” to watch porn in the library. Here’s their address: Board of Trustees, King County Library System, 960 Newport Way NW, Issaquah, WA 98027. Or you can email them here: boardoftrustees@kcls.org. 

If you agree that children’s safety should be our first concern in public places, then please SPEAK OUT. PornProof Kids will continue to follow Maria Carmen on her journey to fight pornography in her library.

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3 Habits to Keep Your Kids from Sinking in the Ocean of Porn

The Ship Only Sinks When the Ocean Gets Inside

tall ship on ocean2Water can be lovely, but it can also be deadly. Especially if your ship sinks.

One of my author friends is writing a historical novel about a ship loaded with gold that went down in a hurricane off of the U.S. Carolinas in 1857. Her great grandfather was one of the lucky survivors (most of the crew and passengers perished). It’s an amazing story and illustrates the dangers involved in ocean travel.

But here’s an important truth.

As long as a ship stays floating on the ocean, her passengers and cargo are safe. The ship only sinks when the ocean gets inside!

Our kids are like ships floating on a sea of sexualized media. As long as the inappropriate media stays outside (or is thrown outside), our kids’ brains will be safe from the lies and addicting nature of pornography.

How do kids keep the ocean of pornography from sinking their ship?

Here are three important habits to learn and practice:

1. Report the leaks.

If you see something, say something. This was the motto posted all over New York City after 9/11. The same works for pornography. Teach your kids (and remind them often) to come and tell you when they see something that they feel is pornographic. Being open enough to tell someone reduces the shame factor and pornography’s seductive power.

Jill C. Manning, PhD, author of What’s the Big Deal about Pornography?, reports that she tells her husband immediately if she is exposed to anything pornographic. Parents can model this same behavior so children will feel safe doing the same thing. (“Honey, I saw something pornographic today—it was in the app store. I have no idea why they used that cover! I’ve been working at getting the image out of my mind all day.”)

2. Seal up the cracks.

Minor holes in the hull of a ship need to be repaired before they let the ocean water burst inside. Are there cracks in your family’s media plan? Review the TV shows, music or movies you and your kids watch or listen to at home. (Or that they’ve been exposed to someone else’s home.)Family playing with Tablet computer at home

Get all hands on a deck for a Family Media Night and work as a family to seal up those cracks by reinforcing your family’s media standards. (Check out the Family Media Standards section of this blog post.)

3. When a rogue wave washes over your ship, start bailing!

Sometimes exposure to pornography hits us unexpectedly. Don’t let porn stay in your ship—use CAN DO Plan™ from our read aloud book Good Pictures Bad Pictures to bail it out.

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Specifically, distract yourself every time those images, song lyrics, or scenes come back into your brain. Divert your thoughts to something else that is positive and exciting. Or go and do something physical that requires mental effort to sustain.

Practice this over and over (like bailing out a boat!) and soon the image will fade. It works because you create a new neural pathway that leads away from that pornographic memory.

Simple habits? Yes!

But powerful when applied. Teach your kids to keep porn out of their brains just like sailors need to keep water out of their boats.

It may even be fun to make some paper boats and demonstrate how they can sink if too much water gets in. (Here’s a helpful YouTube video that shows exactly how to fold an origami ship, and here are printed instructions.)

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Online Video Games: Top 10 Tips to Keep Kids Safe

What Every Parent Needs to Know about Online Video Games

Video Games Top 10 TipsMy kids love the online video game RuneScape, and they’ve played it for years. Set in a medieval fantasy realm where players can travel through various kingdoms fighting monsters, completing quests and increasing their skills. They make tools, catch fish, watch each other’s back and have fun. It’s engaging, but pretty harmless.

Online Gaming & Porn

Other Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games (MMORPG) are not so innocent. In fact, video gaming and pornography access often go hand in hand.

Jill Manning“Parents need to understand how intricately linked the gaming industry and pornography industry are. More and more games have pornography embedded in them. If kids play online, that is a pornographer’s heyday for marketing, grooming and hooking young consumers.”  Jill Manning, Ph.D. Marriage and Family Therapist, as quoted by Internet Safety 101

Let’s look at a few of the dangers and how your kids can avoid them.

Dangers

  • Predators: Kids can use a headset to talk to players from all over the world or predators from around the block. Child predators have gone hi-tech and they are looking for new victims Every. Single. Day.

“But, since predators prey where kids play, it is no surprise that online games are the new frontier for sexual predators. They use online gaming to connect with children and groom and target their next victim.” Internet Safety 101, Online Gaming Dangers

  • Violence: Grand Theft Auto allows players to gun down civilians, and then, when the police respond, players can kill them, too. Does all of this graphic violence and gore have an effect on kids? With new studies in brain science, the answer is increasingly yes!
  • Sexual content: Porn is often embedded in video games. According to Internet Safety 101, many games allow “kids to engage in virtual or simulated sex acts to accumulate more points. Some games exist for the sole purpose of simulating sex—virtual sex games are often free and easy to access for kids; they games allow kids to create an online identity to explore sexuality in any place and in any way, including group sex, bestiality, and other fetishes.”

This video from Internet Safety 101 is well worth the watch!

 

Top 10 Tips to Protect Kids

1. Set up all video game accounts. Determine who your child can talk to and who has access to your child’s gaming profile. Never give a child an Xbox or other game console and allow them to set it up. Parents should set up all controls to limit inappropriate content.

2. Teach your kids to never give away personal information online (name, address, name of school, age, telephone number or email). Safe Internet Surfing advises kids to make sure their online screen names don’t give out information either. For example, they should not use their birth year in their screen name or an abbreviation of their school (WhtBluf2004). Remember, people online can pretend to be who they are not. Be wary of anyone who asks for personal information.

3. Keep computers protected. Play online games only after you have a current and effective antivirus/antispyware firewall running.

4. Don’t download “cheats”—many contain malware and viruses. Only buy software from reputable sources.

5. When disposing of your gaming device, make sure all of your personal information has been deleted.

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6. Read reviews before purchasing a video game: Common Sense Media Review for Games

7. Understand the rating system. Become familiar with the Entertainment Rating Software Board ratings for video games.

8. Read A Parent’s Guide to Video Games, Parental Controls and Online Safety  It’s filled with some excellent info, including a letter from a “gaming Dad.”

9. Remember, that even if a game is rated “E” for everyone, if it has access to the Internet, your kids can encounter other people who may not be using “E” rated language. What will your kids do if they encounter someone using foul language in an online game? Or worse, see a pop-up for porn? Get them prepared with a plan!

10. Limit time so gaming doesn’t become an addiction. PlayCare Tags The Play Ladying is important for kids, but using online games to escape from problems or negative feelings can begin the process of addiction. That’s why emotional coaching is so important for kids. (I love these CARE TAGS from The Play Lady!)

Are you exhausted yet? I am!

Parents today must be much more involved and informed in order to keep their kids safe. It may seem daunting, but you CAN DO it because your kids are worth it!

Please know that you have my respect and all the encouragement I can fit in these posts!

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